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Deidream's avatar

Solidarity with you, beloved. As a fat Black woman*, dodging fetish has become habit. May it never bar you from the love you deserve.

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Sam's avatar

You are the love of my life 💛

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Christa Lei's avatar

It’s strange to see your racial background become a “type” which is more so fetishisation. It’s made me think about the ways interracial and cross cultural dating takes forms and the nuances of having to explain certain portions of the diasporic experience to others… but dating other Asians (esp those who are immigrants or second gen) makes things a little easier. Food for thought, though I hope the next people who date you see and love you as yourself and not a type.

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Sam's avatar

I imagine it’s similar to how Asian women are treated by straight men, yeah? Especially with the gross servile stereotype. Thank you for your kind words, you’re always so thoughtful!

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Christa Lei's avatar

I’m non-binary but when I identified as female, it was gross 🤢 (Less so now that I’m queer and non-monogamous, which limits the pool.) I had someone tell me that he’s “never been with an Asian before.” And that would be cool because it would be a check off his list.

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Sam's avatar

Have you seen much racialization in dating within the nb crowd? Not to imply that nb people only date nb, but to query the extent of racialized dating practices spilling over? Among gay men, it’s incessant.

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